13 Ways To Live Your Life To The Fullest, Not Merely-Darren Chow

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By Darren Chow

1. Feel it in your heart
In life, whenever you feel confused, frustrated, lost or do not know what you really want, you can always seek guidance from your heart. There are too many things in this world do not have a perfect or a definite answer. Some answer will unfold naturally as you proceed in life, while some answer will never reveal by itself unless you seek it attentively. The question “what is the meaning of life?” is one very good example of which you cannot find a perfect or a definite answer from the others. You can Google and YouTube the meaning of life (which is a fun thing to do), but at the end of the day, you would be only learning what is the meaning of other’s life, not yours. Along your journey of life, there are many questions like this where there’s no one can give you the best answer and you are the only one who can find the answer for yourself. If you happened to feel lost in life, not knowing what to choose or to do next, then perhaps one of the best sources you can tap into is your heart. Let it whisper to you what you truly want in your life. Find your true calling, your destiny, your fate, and then live your dream like how you want it to be.

“Our fate lives within us, you only have to be brave enough to see it.” ~Merida, Brave

2. Be part of something you believe in
One of the best thing if life is you are free to take part in the things which you believe is true and meaningful. Different people in this world fight for different things in their life. Some fight for the animals and give them a lot of love unconditionally, some protect the future generation ensuring they have sufficient and up to standard living condition, some save the earth and call for a greener and cleaner place to stay, and some provide urgent medical care in countries to victims of war and disaster regardless of race, religion, or politics. Ask yourself what do you truly believe in and what you think it is worth to strive for in your life. Join related non-profit organization and start taking action. You can enrich your life while doing all the meaningful right things.

“Be the change you want to see in the world.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

“We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.” ~Winston Churchill
The purpose of life is not to be happy; but to matter, to be productive, to be useful, to have it make some difference that you have lived at all.” ~Leo Rosten

3. Travel to your wherever you want, be a stranger in that place.
There is a dream place in your mind that you would like to visit at least once in your lifetime. Deep inside your heart, you are shouting to see the place with your own eyes and to feel the breeze there. The reason why you want to visit that place is irrelevant. The purpose of your visit can be very simple, plain, or even crazy. It doesn’t matter at all. The most important thing is that you must start planning the trip now and really visit your dream place one day, so that you will have no regret in life, the day you take your last breath. If you have a place pop up in your mind right now as you are reading this, then perhaps that is your dream place. Write down the name of the place in your personal journal and make a promise to yourself to visit there one day.

“Travel makes one modest. You see what a tiny place you occupy in the world.” ~Gustave Flaubert

“When you’re traveling, you are what you are right there and then. People don’t have your past to hold against you. No yesterdays on the road.” ~ William Least Heat Moon

4. Appreciate your love ones
Apart from your dreams and believes, I would say that relationship is also one of the most important things in your life. Have you ever looked closely at the bond between you and your family, as well as close friends? Have you ever imagined how different your life would be if you never met them in your life? Fate is one very mysterious and miraculous thing. Some people who run the same bloodline with you, meant to be very influential in your life but only leaves a minor impact in your life, yet some people are so distant, might only meet your once in a lifetime but might change your whole life. No matter who and where you are, relationship is one of the most precious things you can have. Always appreciate those who love you unconditionally when the everyone else seems to go against you, and always treasure those who give you a hand when you need it the most. Remember to take the initiative to express your feelings, to let them know how much they meant for you . Appreciate them for being there when your whole world was shattered apart. A simple hug would be more than sufficient to express your appreciation.

“The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they love them while they’re alive.” ~ Orlando A. Battista

5. Simplify your happiness
Simplify your life starting by simplifying your happiness. Tell yourself that you only need very little to be happy. Do you live on more than $10 a day? Do you have adequate access to water? If yes, then you should be happy because according to world poverty statistics, there are 80% of the world population live on less than $10 a day and 1.1 billion people do not have adequate access to water. Total number of children that die each day due to poverty is 22,000. If you do not need to worry for your next meal, then you are a very lucky person already. Many people think that to be happy means to own more: more money, bigger house, latest gadget, etc. I totally agree that all of these can bring happiness in different ways. But the core message I would like to convey here is that they are not the definition of happiness, owning them does not complete your happiness in life. There is always something else, which is free, cannot be bought with money brings you the true happiness. Don’t believe me? Take a look around yourself and recall when was the last time you have a good laugh or yell because of excitement. You will realize that it is the time you spent along with your loved ones or with your buddy. Not all happiness comes with a price tag. There is some happiness which is free, yet are so precious to make you feel it is worth living. A smile you receive from the one who wake up next to you every morning is one very good example, agree?

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” ~Marcus Aurelius Antoninus

Happiness is pretty simple: someone to love, something to do, something to look forward to.” ~ Rita Mae Brown, Hiss of Death

6. Start living in the present, be here now
The core message here is to live and to enjoy everything in the present. Don’t lock yourself in the past for you can’t change what is already a history. You will need to keep moving forward, take advantage of every day to shape your coming future. “You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.”

On the other hand, don’t be too anxious about the future too since it will come as the time pass. You will eventually reap what you sow today. Thus, focus only on the present and leave tomorrow’s worry for another day.

“When asked “What thing about humanity surprises you the most?”, the Dalai Lama answered: “Man…. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”

7. Learn everything that fascinates you
Whether it is learning how to bake a cake, how to ice skate, how to surf, how to speak a new language, trying or learning new things will always excite you. It is a very good way to make friends and also to enrich your life. Excitements is what makes our life colorful, don’t you agree? When was the last time you can’t fall asleep because you were so anxious for the next day to come for there’s a very special event or activities? I bet you were so excited because the event was rare, it was something new. A lot of people are afraid of getting out of their comfort zone because they are afraid of disappointment or getting hurt. But, come to think about it again, isn’t that life is meant to have up and down? A fall in life is meant to be there to make you stronger. The most important thing is that you always keep the door opened, try out new things, and it will certainly spice up your life.

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

8. Always give your best shot
Besides trying different things in life, you should also try your best in anything you do. One of the best things in life is you can always confront your failure and then conquer it. If you have failed something in the past, be it in losing weight, learning how to make cookies, or anything, you should go back and give your best shot. If you really want to do it and you have started it, then never give up until the moment you succeed. The moment you accomplish what you want after failures will give you a huge boost of confidence and joys. A lot things in life are simple. Everything you try for the first time is hard and failure usually comes along. It is part of the process. However, if you are willing to keep trying, to learn and to improve, one day you will eventually success. The moment you master it, congratulations, it will be yours forever, and you can also taste all the fulfillment and satisfaction along with your victory.

“Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.” ~Oprah Winfrey

9. Move forward every day
We all have big dreams and it is dreams which fill our lives with hopes. It is amazing to own a big dream no matter how silly it sounds of the others. How the other look at your dream doesn’t matter at all because it is your dream after all. The most important thing is that you make use of every second you have to keep moving forward, marching towards your goal. Embrace change and enjoy your life as it unfolds. Do not waste time. Make every moment a meaningful moment.

“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.” ~Walt Disney

10. Falling in love
You can’t force it, but when it comes, make sure to treasure it and never let it go easily. Some may not agree but falling in love can change your life completely. It allows you to feel all the weird mixture of emotion you could ever imagine, hate and love at the same time. It also makes you extraordinary brave when you need to protect the one you love, and also might change your attitude or perception towards the world. If you have big houses, beautiful cars, achieve financial freedom, yet still feel there’s no meaning in life, then perhaps you are lack of this thing, love. Laughing alone while watching comedy, win all the awards but no one to share the joy is one pathetic thing. Open your heart and allows others to come into your life. Let the fate collides and sets off beautiful fireworks in your life.

“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” ~Dr. Seuss

11. Enjoy the beauty of the nature
If you are tired of your busy working life, perhaps you can take a break and enjoy watching the sunset on the beach. It will remind you that in the midst of all that hustle and bustle, something beautiful is still going on around you. You can also watch the sunrise on top of the hill, dancing in the rain, playing with the snows, running in the grass field, lying down on the flower bed, etc. Surrender yourself to the enchanting nature, it will magically shrink your problems and recharge your energy bar to the green level again. Life is too short to miss all these beautiful moments, so enjoy it while you can.

“Those who contemplate the beauty of the earth find reserves of strength that will endure as long as life lasts. There is something infinitely healing in the repeated refrains of nature — the assurance that dawn comes after night, and spring after winter.” ~Rachel Carson, Silent Spring

12. Letting go of your past, embrace a brand new you
To live your life to the fullest, you need a lot of energy to push you forward every day. However, there are too many people in reality are unable to move forward because they simply cannot put down the negative things in their lives. The true impact of a motivational story can be the same. However, it can propel a person towards success but also have zero impact on the other person at the same time. The reason why the first person can achieve success while the other cannot is because he is willing to put down the negativity in front of him on his journey of life. When the pushing force is greater than the blocking or the negativity force, the result can only be one, which is that person moving forward. A lot of people didn’t live to the max, didn’t do what they really want to do in life is because they let the past negativity take control of them. Maybe something really bad had happened in the past and caused them to lose their confidence, thus they are afraid to keep trying in the future. If only they were to realize that the fear of the bad same thing to happen again is only an imagination, they would have moved far ahead from where they are standing right now, and perhaps would also be much more happier than their current state. Remember: shit happens, you can always choose to keep moving instead of just standing on top of that shit.

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” ~Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” ~Ann Landers

13. Respect and love yourself
Another reason why some people didn’t live their life to the max is because they are too concerned about what the others around them are saying. Peer pressure can be a very powerful thing when it comes to positively influence, but it can also be very devastating if the influence is bad. Selecting your friends is very crucial because ultimately, you will be influenced by your close friends subconsciously either you like it or not. If you have a bunch of friends with a negative mindset, you will tend to see a lot of problems instead of opportunity, make more complaints instead of searching for a good solution, etc. No matter what kind of friends you have currently, either people who influence your positively or negatively, you must understand that everyone is looking at the world from their own perspective. Even the people who have the greatest positive impact on your life might not agree with your vision or what you really what to do because he does not see the world through your eyes. Sometimes, you need to be really assured about what you want in life, hold your belief and dream so strong that no matter what others said, your goal will never be shaken. If you are too concerned about what others said about you in life, you might end up like a clown, trying to make everyone else happy but yourself. Yes, sacrifice yourself for your love ones makes you a hero, however please also remember that your life, it belongs to you. There are times you need to respect and appreciate yourself too. So, don’t forget to give yourself some space and do things which you really want to do. You only live once, make sure you live it to the max.

“The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don’t let them put you in that position.” ~Leo Buscaglia

“You don’t need anybody to tell you who you are or what you are. You are what you are!” ~John Lennon

“Never dull your shine for somebody else.” ~Tyra Banks

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This Is YOUR Life


 This Is YOUR Life


THIS IS YOUR LIFE; Do what you love, and do it often.
If you don’t like something, change it.
If you don’t like your job, quit.
If you don’t have enough time, spot watching TV.
If you are looking for the love of your life, STOP;
They will be waiting for you when you
Start Doing The Things You Love.
Stop over analysing, Life is Simple.

All emotions are beautiful.
When you eat, appreciate every last bite.
Open your mind, arms, and heart to new things and people,
we are united in our differences.

Ask the next person you see what their passion is,
and share your aspiring dream with them.
Travel Often; getting lost will help you find yourself.
Some opportunities only come once, Seize Them.

Life is about the people you meet,
and the things you create with them,
so go out and Start Creating.
Live Your Dream, And Wear Your Passion.
Life Is Short.

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Global Renaissance Woman

Dr. Maya Angelou is one of the most renowned and influential voices of our time. Hailed as a global renaissance woman, Dr. Angelou is a celebrated poet, memoirist, novelist, educator, dramatist, producer, actress, historian, filmmaker, and civil rights activist.

Born on April 4th, 1928, in St. Louis, Missouri, Dr. Angelou was raised in St. Louis and Stamps, Arkansas. In Stamps, Dr. Angelou experienced the brutality of racial discrimination, but she also absorbed the unshakable faith and values of traditional African-American family, community, and culture.

As a teenager, Dr. Angelou’s love for the arts won her a scholarship to study dance and drama at San Francisco’s Labor School. At 14, she dropped out to become San Francisco’s first African-American female cable car conductor. She later finished high school, giving birth to her son, Guy, a few weeks after graduation. As a young single mother, she supported her son by working as a waitress and cook, however her passion for music, dance, performance, and poetry would soon take center stage.

In 1954 and 1955, Dr. Angelou toured Europe with a production of the opera Porgy and Bess. She studied modern dance with Martha Graham, danced with Alvin Ailey on television variety shows and, in 1957, recorded her first album, Calypso Lady. In 1958, she moved to New York, where she joined the Harlem Writers Guild, acted in the historic Off-Broadway production of Jean Genet’s The Blacks and wrote and performed Cabaret for Freedom.

In 1960, Dr. Angelou moved to Cairo, Egypt where she served as editor of the English language weekly The Arab Observer. The next year, she moved to Ghana where she taught at the University of Ghana’s School of Music and Drama, worked as feature editor for The African Review and wrote for The Ghanaian Times.

During her years abroad, Dr. Angelou read and studied voraciously, mastering French, Spanish, Italian, Arabic and the West African language Fanti. While in Ghana, she met with Malcolm X and, in 1964, returned to America to help him build his new Organization of African American Unity.

Shortly after her arrival in the United States, Malcolm X was assassinated, and the organization dissolved. Soon after X’s assassination, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. asked Dr. Angelou to serve as Northern Coordinator for the Southern Christian Leadership Conference. King’s assassination, falling on her birthday in 1968, left her devastated.

With the guidance of her friend, the novelist James Baldwin, she began work on the book that would become I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings. Published in 1970, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings was published to international acclaim and enormous popular success. The list of her published verse, non-fiction, and fiction now includes more than 30 bestselling titles.

A trailblazer in film and television, Dr. Angelou wrote the screenplay and composed the score for the 1972 film Georgia, Georgia. Her script, the first by an African American woman ever to be filmed, was nominated for a Pulitzer Prize.

She continues to appear on television and in films including the landmark television adaptation of Alex Haley’s Roots (1977) and John Singleton’s Poetic Justice (1993). In 1996, she directed her first feature film, Down in the Delta. In 2008, she composed poetry for and narrated the award-winning documentary The Black Candle, directed by M.K. Asante.

Dr. Angelou has served on two presidential committees, was awarded the Presidential Medal of Arts in 2000, the Lincoln Medal in 2008, and has received 3 Grammy Awards. President Clinton requested that she compose a poem to read at his inauguration in 1993. Dr. Angelou’s reading of her poem “On the Pulse of the Morning” was broadcast live around the world.

Dr. Angelou has received over 30 honorary degrees and is Reynolds Professor of American Studies at Wake Forest University.

Dr. Angelou’s words and actions continue to stir our souls, energize our bodies, liberate our minds, and heal our hearts.(Source) http://mayaangelou.com

Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie – review


Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie – review

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s accomplished third novel is a subtly provocative exploration of oppression and the idea of home

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Hay festival 2012

Animating the questions … Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. Photograph: David Levenson/Getty Images

After 13 years in the United States, Ifemelu is about to return to Lagos; but first she must go to the hairdresser’s. So far, so run-of-the-mill, for who doesn’t want to look their best to greet a crowd of people they haven’t seen for a long time? But for Ifemelu, this essential piece of personal maintenance is not exactly straightforward. First, she must take a train out of Princeton, where the few black people she has seen are “so light-skinned and lank-haired she could not imagine them wearing braids”, then she must take a cab to an unfamiliar salon, her usual hairdresser being unavailable because she has returned to Ivory Coast to get married; then wrangle over the price; then sit in baking heat for many hours, during which she will be asked repeatedly whether she knows the Nollywood stars on the television and, more alarmingly, whether she can intercede on her Senegalese braider Aisha’s behalf to persuade either of her Igbo suitors to marry her.


Hair is a big deal in Americanah (the slang term that Ifemelu’s Lagos friends will use to describe her when she goes back to Nigeria). “Why don’t you have relaxer?” asks Aisha, to which she replies, “I like my hair the way God made it”, meaning that she refuses to straighten her hair by means of chemicals and smoothing irons; but it is also a statement made ironic by its context, given that the pair are in the midst of a disagreement about what colour hair extensions Aisha should use to weave into Ifemelu’s braids. “Colour one is too black, it looks fake,” Ifemelu tells her, but Aisha merely “shrugged, a haughty shrug, as though it was not her problem if her customer did not have good taste”.

What is real, what is fake, how many layers of history and culture it takes to construct a national, or racial, or personal identity, and how contingent that identity is on its immediate surroundings are all questions that Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie poses in her third novel; but her real talent is to make those questions seem as if they cannot be contained by neat, orderly language, and instead to animate them, to embed them in messy, difficult lives that are filled with idiosyncrasy and complication and compromise.

Ifemelu has herself created a life based on observing the weirdnesses – mostly painful, sometimes comical – that emerge when different groups of people live together in a system shaped to maintain the dominance of one group over others. Her blog, Raceteenth or Various Observations About American Blacks (Those Formerly Known As Negroes) by a Non- American Black, created so that  she could voice her various puzzlements and conclusions about what she saw around her, has become a huge success, managing to keep happy both the kind of readers who routinely use the word “reify” and those who want to chat in more laidback fashion about their experiences. In posts such as Badly Dressed White Middle Managers From Ohio Are Not Always What You Think, about a man who has adopted a black child and finds himself shunned by his neighbours, she chronicles her unexpected discoveries; in more didactic mode, she counsels her fellow immigrants in unabashedly straightforward, no-nonsense terms. Stop telling Americans you are Jamaican or Ghanaian, she writes in To My Fellow Non-American Black: In America, You Are Black, Baby, because “America doesn’t care”: “You must nod back when a black person nods at you in a heavily white area. It is called the black nod … If you go to eat in a restaurant, please tip generously. Otherwise the next black person who comes in will get awful service, because waiters groan when they get a black table. You see, black people have a gene that makes them not tip, so please overpower that gene.”

In the process, Ifemelu has gone from being broke, depressed and alienated to being a condo-owning Fellow at Princeton. She would not wish to return to her early student life in America, when she was forced to help a sports coach to “relax” so that she could pay her rent; when she was utterly bewildered by the customs of the country. But nor is she quite at home with her life as it is; and a kind of weariness, a build-up of “amorphous longings, shapeless desires” has led her to this point of departure.

There are also more concrete reasons: perhaps the example of her Aunty Uju, a doctor who came to America following the death of the military high-up who kept her in fine style as his mistress, but who has found herself incrementally diminished by it; or Ifemelu’s failure to find a definitively comfortable fit with her painstakingly moral and politically fastidious boyfriend Blaine; or by the knowledge that she herself feels a disconnect in what she is doing. “You know why Ifemelu can write that blog, by the way?” asks Shan, Blaine’s jealous and unpleasant sister. “Because she’s African. She’s writing from the outside. She doesn’t really feel all the stuff she’s writing about. It’s all quaint and curious to her. So she can write it and get all these accolades and get invited to give talks. If she were African-American, she’d just be labelled angry and shunned.” The tension between these two characters has simmered for some time, and this is an explosive moment. But Ifemelu barely reacts, saying only “I think that’s fair”.

And there is also Obinze, the childhood sweetheart – indeed, once her future husband – whom she left in Nigeria and who shares, as a lesser partner, the narrative. Obinze’s experience of emigration has been less successful than Ifemelu’s; a brief stint in London sees him working under a false name and paying over the odds for an arranged marriage, only to be arrested on his way to the ceremony and later deported from a country “odorous with fear of asylum seekers”. He has also seen friends from home in decidedly elevated circumstances: Emenike, who has married a wealthy lawyer and subsequently “cast home as the jungle and himself as interpreter of the jungle”, invites him to a dinner party in Islington, at which Obinze is struck by the unmatched artisan plates that would never be used for guests in Nigeria. More unbridgeable, though, is his fellow guests’ inability to understand he is not a refugee: “They would not understand why people like him, who were raised well-fed and watered but mired in dissatisfaction, conditioned from birth to look towards somewhere else and eternally convinced that real lives happened in that somewhere else, were now resolved to do dangerous things, illegal things, so as to leave, none of them starving, or raped, or from burned villages, but merely hungry for choice and certainty.”

Obinze’s enforced return to Nigeria brings power, albeit through chance connections, so that when, towards the end of the book, Ifemelu arrives in Lagos as an awkward outsider, he is very much part of the new establishment. Whether they are able to retrieve their former intimacy, or whether it has been chased away by the transformations wrought in them by their travels, provides a tentative resolution.

But it is also slightly unsatisfactory, because Americanah is a book that works better when it is in transit, detailing people and situations who are in the act of becoming. Its structure is complex and sometimes unwieldy; there is much looping backwards and forwards in time as Ifemelu sits in the hair salon, and one feels slightly lost once her braids are finished and the narrative has moved on. Similarly, some characters are glimpsed too fleetingly to make a lasting impression; in the case of Ifemelu’s parents, for example, this neatly mirrors their daughter’s fading memories of them, but it is also tricky for the reader.

Nonetheless, this is an impressive novel – although very different from Adichie’s Orange prize-winning Half of a Yellow Sun, it shares some of its freewheeling, zesty expansiveness. But that should not disguise its delicacy; it is also an extremely thoughtful, subtly provocative exploration of structural inequality, of different kinds of oppression, of gender roles, of the idea of home. Subtle, but not afraid to pull its punches. We all wish race was not an issue, says Ifemelu, talking about inter-racial relationships at a polite Manhattan dinner party, the day after Obama becomes the presidential candidate: “But it’s a lie. I came from a country where race was not an issue, I did not think of myself as black and I only became black when I came to America.”

Word Up

We love word

We hate word

Still we dream word


Magical word of thought

Spiritual ideas bought

In poems for poet


Words get details

It can irritate

It can waste a taste


Words in the world

Word is up

Still on top of the word


The answer to our harmony

The light to testimony

World of trinity


I dear to eat up the word

Word’s up on top,

In our world

Word up.